Holiday Stress Management: Four Tips

Decking the halls and spreading good cheer takes a lotcatalogs. That's how I find just the right something for
of energy. Here are some tips to make sure youeveryone on my list. When it ceases to be fun, I stop. I
enjoy every last fa-la-la.1. Stay Centered. An energizedso enjoy shopping this way that, throughout the year, I
and peaceful holiday season is possible only when youbookmark sites that offer just the right items.If you find
can keep your priorities straight. Take a pen and paperthe materialism of the season draining your energy,
and ask yourself: What do you value, above all else?commit to making an attitude shift. If you want things to
What comes second? Third? How important is yourbe different this year, only you can make it so. Take
spirituality, your family, your profession, your time forthe lead for your family, and live in such a way that
yourself? After some thought and reflection, rank youryou prove less stuff really does equal more fun.Maybe
top priorities on a Post-it-Note where you will see ityou'll take the money you usually spend on
throughout the day. (Mine is on my computer monitor).one-too-many toys and enjoy, instead, a weekend
Refer to your list when asked to make commitmentsfamily getaway. Maybe you'll make homemade
and compromises. If the request does not jibe withgoodies, such as picture frames, home movies, or
your list, you do not only have permission, you have angoodie baskets, which the whole family helps to
obligation, to say no.This list of priorities may set thecreate.Maybe you'll bag the traditional gift-giving and
course for new holiday traditions, as well. Maybe youstart a new tradition. In our family, it goes like this: Each
will donate toys, books, and food to charities. Maybeguest brings a wrapped gift of roughly the same dollar
you will help serve dinner at a homeless shelter in lieuvalue. We sit in a circle and each person, in turn, has
of a holiday meal.2. Indulge the ghost of Christmasthe option of taking a gift that's already been opened
Past. What memories immediately come forth thator opening a new one. It's fun. It's festive. It gets
evoke a fond nostalgia? For me, it isn't the gifts or theeveryone moving and talking, and it switches the focus
shopping or even the parties. It's rocking my infant,to the relationships and the event...not the gifts.4. Start
alone, by candlelight, to "Silent Night." It's letting myearly, plan well, and take care of yourself. Here are
2-year-old crack the eggs for the cookies, and seeingsome tips:Simplify as much as possible. Use paper
the pride on her floury face.Decide what the holidaysplates. Eat out. If a holiday tradition is old and tired,
really mean to you. What is really important? Thenreinvigorate it or start a new tradition of staying at
make a plan to weave more of those activities intohome.Plan ahead. To help, chances are, your favorite
your holidays, and reduce the rest.3. Deck the Hallsfood website has a checklist for big holiday
with Light and Love. Don't let commercialism spoil yourevents.Replenish your natural energy by taking care of
fun. Make the simple promise to yourself that, this year,your body. Eat right. Exercise (in the crisp outdoors
you'll actually enjoy your holiday shopping. Brainstormonce in a while). Drink plenty of water. Sleep.Energize
ways you can make this happen. For me, the mall is ayour image. Give yourself an early holiday gift or a
giant energy drain. The look of worried resignation as agreat haircut, a brow shaping, a pedicure with bright
shopper hands over her credit card tells me that she isred polish, or a free makeover at your favorite
shopping out of a sense of obligation and not one ofcosmetics counter and a purchase of the most vibrant
joy. And it sours my holiday spirit.Instead, I carve out anlipstick shade you'll actually wear.Decorate with items
afternoon all to myself. I put on an Andrea Bocelli CD,of comfort and joy. Display photographs from past
sip Chai tea from a giant mug, and curl up with aholiday celebrations. Keep in full view reminders that
fleece blanket to surf the Internet and page throughyou take care of yourself...